Looking Out My Back Window #48

Originally posted on Facebook HERE

Today’s “Looking out my back window” post is coming to you from an Airbnb in Harleysville, PA. It’s not really the back window, but this view from the front porch is much more appealing, so you’re welcome  – We’re taking a week off to visit friends in the area, something we do every year. We love it here. So much to do, so little time. Life seems to be like that, right? Just so much going on, time flying by, kids growing up, yesterday it’s the new year, tomorrow the years over. What’s up with that? But I digress, there’s a couple other things on my mind today. One of them is how many friends I have on Facebook who have incredibly poor opinions of themselves, life in general, who they are and what they’re capable of. I just cringe when I see people post things like “nothing ever works out for me”, “I hate my life”, “I wonder if I’ll ever be happy”, etc… so, basically what your telling yourself is “I don’t like myself, I’m not happy, and since nothing ever works out for me it I’ll always be this way”. Wow. Yes, it will. It certainly does not have to be that way, but if that’s really what you think, that’s what you’ll see no matter what happens to you. You’ve already decided to be unhappy. If something good happens, you’ll sabotage yourself because internally the computer you were given at birth (your mind) can only use the programming it’s been given (nothing ever works out for me) and work from there. Faulty programming = faulty results. For years now, my programming tells me “everything always works in my favor”, and that’s what I see – even if and when something bad happens, internally my thoughts instantly go to “what is the good that will come from this?”, because I truly believe everything always works in my favor, so it pretty much always does. What part of us is unhappy? We are as unhappy as our minds make us so. If we spend time getting to know who we really are, answering the question “Who am I” from a spiritual perspective, we would realize only our mind, our egos, can make us unhappy, based on the beliefs and attitudes we’ve put in place from our prior life experiences (read more). You’ll see a change only once you change the programming you’re giving your computer, and believe it for yourself. For most of us, that process takes time. It’s a big part of recovering from any addiction – first you change the behavior (stop drinking, for example), then you change your thoughts. That second part takes a lifetime. So, if you’re one of those people who doesn’t enjoy life, isn’t happy, thinks nothing will ever work out – know you have the power to change that. In fact, you are the only one who has the power to change that. Start reading books on changing your thoughts, whatever resonates with you. Make new friends if you have to – negativity breeds negativity. An alcoholic can’t keep hanging with other alcoholics if they want to quit, they’ll get sucked back in. Change jobs if you need to. Your life can and will change the instant you decide you are going to live from a different mindset. But the change will be gradual. And nobody else can do it for you. We all know the feeling of love. There is an ocean of love within us just waiting for us to find it. We need to look within, though. And, the tricky part is that you won’t see the changes until you believe it… You’ll see it when you believe it. As long as you live from an “I’ll believe it when I see it” mindset, you’ll never get there. I wish you all peace and love and happiness, today and always. Live from there. Spread joy. We’re in this together. Let’s help each other along the way